When coaching clients I often come across the scenario where people are lying to themselves.
And it can be amazingly sneaky and powerful too. Often the lie is so well rehearsed and in-grained it seems like the truth. Even more so when society and peer pressure around us seems to be agreeing and supporting the lie.
It can show up in many different ways but sure as eggs is eggs, we all have a lie that we tell ourselves consciously or subconsciously that holds us back.
It could be one of these :
“I can’t do it”
“I’m too old”
“I’m too young”
“I’m not ready”
“I’m not good enough”
“People like me don’t become that”
“They don’t want to hear what I have to say”
“I can’t make a difference anyway, why bother”
If you recognise any of these or know you tell yourself something similar, these are lies.
All these lies do is limit you. Make you play small. Keep you “safe” The truth is they kill your brilliance, your aliveness, your potential, your dreams, your beauty, your authenticity. They rob you of something powerful.
Good things don’t come from staying safe. Nobody changed anything by not trying. Success does not come without failure first.
Our ego’s drive us to perfection. To pretend to be something we can’t possibly be in reality. Perfection is not real. It is itself a lie.
The moment we can accept ourselves as we are, in all our messiness and imperfection, that moment we can start to be authentically powerful. Then we can see the lie for what it is and stand in our own truth. We become human. And we connect and operate from a completely different place. We don’t have to prove ourselves by what we do. We don’t have to seek approval from others. We become secure in who we are. Then we can start operating out of choice. Rather than need or fear. This is a place of ease and flow and is very powerful.
So what is your biggest lie?
Want to know the truth?
We are enough. Already.