3 things to make your life better
There are many ways to improve your quality of life, reduce your stress levels and increase a sense of being “on purpose” and going in the “right direction”. This week I want to share a few of them with you as a good starting point for improving your life. You may have other techniques that work for you and and that is great but here are a few that I commonly use with clients as they seem to cut to the core of the issue.
1) Accept things the way they are rather than how you think they should be.
This is a great place to start improving your life. When we expect things to be different from the way they are, all sorts of negative emotions can arise around disappointment, frustration, anger, injustice, fear, rejection etc. It is very easy to spend a lot of time and energy complaining, feeling hurt, feeling stuck, lonely etc about a situation when actually it was your own expectations that caused this in the first place. This can often be the case in relationships when the other person maybe doesn’t behave or react the way we expected them too. Our own expectations set us up for the disappointment and hurt that can follow. So by letting go of how we think things should be and accepting things as the way they are, we can focus on the situation a lot easier and decide if we want to take some action to make a change or if we are actually ok with things the way they are.
2) Act through choice rather than reacting
Emotions are powerful things. They have the ability to overpower us if we allow them to. They also have the power to drive us to action and reaction. A great example of this is road rage where anger can suddenly boil up when we feel we have been wronged or treated unfairly. It is at these moments when we feel strong emotion, whether that be anger, fear, guilt, love, sadness, whichever it is, we can become a victim of these emotions and allow them to run us and determine our course of action or reaction. However, if we are able to recognise that the emotion is just that, an emotion and rather than choosing to act based on the emotion, we take a moment to consider and act through choice, the action we take would often be very different. Emotions are wonderful things and are there to be experienced and enjoyed in all their fullness. But when we allow them to determine a course of action for us we are not allowing ourselves to be living our purpose and following the path and direction we have chosen.
3) Focus on the things you can do something about not on those that you can’t.
I know that this is an area I have struggled with in the past, spending time worrying about things that I have no control over at all. It achieves absolutely nothing positive and just costs you energy and causes distraction. Instead focus on creating a positive impact on the things you can do something about and make a difference there.
Give these three things a go and see how they can make a difference in your life.
If you are struggling with them then get in touch for a coaching session and we can work on it together.